Why You’re Never Satisfied

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Are you constantly chasing after satisfaction but never quite feeling fulfilled? Same.

Satisfaction seems elusive—always out of reach, but I finally understand why this happens (after 31 years on this earth) and how we can change it.

The main reason we never feel satisfied is because we are constantly looking for satisfaction in the future, which prevents us from being satisfied in the present. But why is that? Why do we seek satisfaction elsewhere? Why do we need to chase after the next best thing, especially when we often have everything we need right in front of us? 

I’ve pondered these questions for a long time, and here’s what I figured out.

4 Reasons You’re Never Satisfied

Reason #1: You don’t know what you want

A lack of direction can quickly lead to dissatisfaction, confusion, and frustration.

You might sense there’s more to life than what you’re currently experiencing, and deep down, you feel that you haven’t scratched the surface of your potential.

However, the unfortunate reality is that most people never reach their potential. They spend most of their lives confined within their comfort zone until something too big to ignore happens, like a breakdown, breakup, or the loss of a loved one. When this happens, it often results in a huge reality check.

“Maybe I should do something with my life and figure out what I want… because I have no idea.”

If this sounds like you, here’s what you can do:

• Reflect on your life and dreams. Ask yourself: What do I truly want? What do I value? What makes me happy? What does my extraordinary life look like? What clutter is getting in the way?
• Write down your thoughts and start taking small steps towards these goals now, not later.
  
  

Reason #2: You’re ignoring what you want and chasing easier goals

Unlike the reason I mentioned above, let’s say you know exactly what you want, but fear is holding you back.

Instead of pursuing your true desires, you settle for more accessible, short-term distractions because they seem more attainable. For example, you might spend hours on social media instead of working on a passion project or choose a familiar but uninspiring job over pursuing a risky yet fulfilling career change.

The former was the path I traveled for quite a while before I gathered the courage to leave my job and bet on myself—a decision I did not take lightly.

Here’s a question I dare you to answer:

What would you be doing if success was guaranteed?

Would you change careers and work in a different industry? Would you finally start that YouTube channel or business you’ve talked about for years? Would you be a stay-at-home parent and homeschool your kids?

Regardless of your answer, it’s time to make a change if you’re not actively pursuing that vision.

Confront your fears head-on, clear the clutter, and start taking steps towards your actual goals.

Reason #3: You’re not taking chances

“The difference between you feeling unsatisfied and satisfied is your willingness to take a chance.”

Taking chances in life will always be a gamble, especially if you’re stepping out of your comfort zone to do something you’ve never done before—but that’s also where growth happens.

The key is managing your mindset and steering clear of limiting beliefs.

When opportunities present themself in your life, focus on what could go right instead of what might go wrong.

This concept was the biggest mindset shift I had to make personally and as a business owner. 

Not taking chances will keep you unsatisfied and unfulfilled, but embracing an attitude of yes and then figuring it out—is when things start to change.

Reason #4: You’re focusing too much on the negative

Have you noticed that when you focus on the negative aspects of your day, it often leads to more negativity? This is called a negative feedback loop, where negative thoughts and feelings lead to further negative thoughts and feelings.

For example, I remember struggling to bring my vision to life while recording various YouTube videos. As a result, these videos took much longer than necessary to complete, which frustrated me. My camera battery kept dying, I was hungry, I was tired of talking—it felt like everything wasn’t going as planned.

The lesson I learned from these moments was the importance of preparation and patience. If I had prepared better ahead of time and maintained my patience, recording those videos would have gone much smoother.

I shared that to say this: When something doesn’t go as planned, or you start to have a bad day, take a moment and ask yourself, “What is this trying to teach me?”

This shift in perspective can turn negative experiences into valuable lessons that can help you down the line (regardless of what you’re working on) and create a satisfying experience.

Final Thoughts:

Remember, satisfaction isn’t something that happens in the distant future. It’s a state of mind you can cultivate right now.

Here are your action steps for this week:

• Take time to understand what you truly want
• Face your fears
• Take a chance
• Shift your focus from negative to positive

Keep growing on your journey, my friend.

I’ll see you next Sunday!